Have you been feeling you have been taken advantage and been walked all over before and this starts to feel like norm?

Or have you felt like you have been saddling yourself w responsibilities at work that aren’t yours in the first place; but you felt like you ‘have to’ else whoever will do them?

1. Boundaries are important for you to develop yourself as an individual and it is your own responsibility to exercise self-care! Have you been taking care of yourself?

Symptom if you lack boundary, how does boundaries help you to develop as an individual

Signs of lacking boundary:

“If you are in a situation in which you’re doing lots of extra work because you “need the job” and because you are afraid of being let go, you have a problem.”

Boundaries are where our identity comes from. Boundaries define what is me and what is not me. Our work is part of our identity in that it taps into our particular giftedness and the exercise of those gifts in the community.

When others have issues setting boundaries whereupon the burden of their lapse seems to fall on you and is making you fee resentful. You have to take responsibility for your own feeling. Then act responsibly to the other party.

“Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.”

2. Lack of boundaries can often manifest in the inability to have healthy conversations with our love ones. How has your interactions with your love ones been coming along?

Boundaries are hard to identify but you know when someone oversteps. They work like fences. You know when people cross them.

Keeping boundaries is to know your limit and enforce on that limit. It helps to define who you are to people you are interacting with.

Say to your team or your boss, “If I am going to do A today, I will not be able to do B until Wednesday. Is that okay or do we need to rethink which one I need to be working on?”

Effective workers do two things. They strive to do excellent work, and they spend their time on most important things. Say no to unimportant things, and say no to inclinations to do less than your best.

3. Setting good boundaries creates a healthier you, and many needs a role model as such.

How does a person with healthy boundaries look like when it comes to protecting your own emotional, psychological space, and be able to say no but yet builds the relationship with people around you so powerfully.

• Law of power. You only have the power to change yourself, you cannot change another person.

“To see another person as the problem to be fixed is to give that person power over you and your well-being. Because you cannot change another person, you are out of control. The real problem lies in how you are relating to the problem person. You are the one in pain, and only you have the power to fix it.”

You cannot control another, but you can control your exposure to that person. This points back to the fundamental law of power. You only have the power over your own actions. You may not be control what happens to you, but you can control your response to what happens to you.

Call for action! Let’s take better care of ourselves!

Recently I’ve joined some affiliation programs. These in particular are those I wish to support for their vision and services.

• Affiliation program to bookstore, goodread and book depository

Summary

3 groups of people

In our entire journey, learning how to master boundaries is a continuous journey in which I am still a part of. Below, there are particularly three groups of people i’ve identified which i believe this book can serve to give perspective to our relationship with people around us.

Group A: If you always had issues saying no, and that always seem to take a toll on your own wellbeing. It is not love or concern, its just you being irresponsible to take good care of your own psychological wellness. And this book is definitely going to give your good practical handles to start doing that.

Group B: If you have been able to say no to requests that might seem to be taking more from you than what you can afford to even though you seem to just ‘be yourself’, that’s a good sign, you have been subconsicously taking care of yourself with healthy boundaries. Although yet when people ask you just how are yuo able to be so comfortable in your own skin, you couldnt seem to be able to word it out. We do not just want to stop there. Our friends, family members and love ones that are struggling with relationship issues that stems from poor or lack of boundaries needs you all the more.This book helps to word out some of the health practices you have perhaps have been practicing without you knowing.

“To be a Christian is to be a co-laborer with God in the community of humanity. By giving to others we find true fulfillment.”

Group C: To those that seem to have understood this concept of boundaries, have been practicing it and be able to convey this idea to people around you. Thats great! Keep sharing this important concept to the people around you, you can easily share it by just clicking this button to copy the url for them to purchase this book.

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